I’m taking a bit of an emotional battering at the minute. I only get 16 precious 50 minute sessions with Marge this year, so I have literally crammed all the hell of my life into that time, frantically working through as much of it as possible whilst I still have her support.
The fast pace has meant fast changes, it feels like a lot of bombs are going off around me. I have quickly learnt to see these as positive bombs, which I’ll explain in another post.
What I will say now, is that whilst the bombs are positive in the long term, I’m still getting caught in the blast zone when they go off, and I’m feeling the after effects. I think I’m keeping my shit together quite well to be fair, but that can only last so long. I need to start healing now. I need a bit of TLC.
Of course, I realise I don’t know how to heal do I! I’ve never really done it before, because I’ve never really set off bombs like this before. And since learning about my emotional battle with chocolate, I knew that chocolate was a ‘keeping my shit together’ tactic, not a healing one, so that wasn’t going to work.
Good old Google…
- Search: “How does an adult self soothe?”
That seemed like a ridiculous term to search, but my whole life has been based on avoidance, not acceptance and healing. You only know if you know, right? No shame in that.
Well, that search led me to an article, From Self-Indulgence to Self-Nurturing. Which links to another article, Feeling Good Vs. Feeling Good About Ourselves. Between these two articles I feel inspired to self nurture, with actions that make me feel good about myself, allowing me to experience the bombs, learn from them, and heal. Rather than self indulging, with an action that makes me feel good because it distracts me, and thus the bomb and all its chaos will still be there waiting for me when I come back down from the temporary high.
I’ve started small – at the weekend I had a lovely soak in the bath, and twice now I’ve been down to a local lake because [as much as I hate the cold, wet, rain, wind, snow, ugghh] I love to be outside somewhere quiet, particularly near water. I find it very calming. I journal while I’m there, and let all my thoughts spill onto the paper. This is when I wrote my most emotional post to date, Living on a boat.
But as you may know by now, I have two tiny people, they are only 6 months and 2.5 years, so I do find myself tired and stuck indoors a lot at the moment. I’d really like to find new ways that I can self nurture at home, as well as new things to try outside.
So here’s where I need your help…
What do YOU do to self nurture? To look after yourself? To love yourself? When you know you’re worth nurturing, looking after, and loving?
Please leave a comment with as many or little suggestions as you like, I’d absolutely love to hear what works for you